Ah, we’ve all been there! We get angry, upset, or we stress over the small things – someone cutting the line in a store, us or someone close to us forgetting something, missing the bus or train, looking for something but can’t find it, running late, etc. And sometimes we keep thinking about an event that made us upset or angry throughout the whole day, sometimes even for days, which just prolongs the anger and affects how we act, making us not a pleasant company to be around.
The best advice would be: Don’t sweat about the small things – you only put your body under stress! When you are under stress, your body’s immune system has to work overtime, cells of the immune system are unable to respond to hormonal control, and as a consequence, produce levels of inflammation that promote disease.
Just think of a time when you or someone you know was under stress, and what affect it had on them. I, for instance, have a friend who always gets cold sores after a longer stressful period – it happened every year in June after exam period. 🙂 When it comes to me, it set my first flare up (ulcerative colitis).
Sometimes it is easier to say Don’t worry about it! than actually doing it. What you could do when facing a potentially stressful thing is to ask yourself the following questions, just so as to put it in perspective:
– Can I do something to change it? If not, then it’s not worth worrying about. If yes, then change it, which should clear you of any tension.
– Can I ask someone to help me with this? This can save you hours of doing something that could be done in a few minutes.
– Will this matter when I am on my death bed? Will I actually think about this right before I die? If not, then it isn’t so important to be stressing over it.
Take it step by step. Focus on the first thing you can do to solve the problem. When you are done with the first step, take the next one. This way, you will not stress about a million things that need to be done, but focus on one thing at a time, and as a result you will feel more at ease.
Another good thing is to live in the moment, and not worry about things that could go wrong some time in the future. It isn’t the future yet, and you don’t know if that will actually happen, so don’t worry about it. Focus on what is here and now.
At the same time, it is important for me to trust the universe that everything will turn out right. Sometimes I have to consciously tell myself this, and sometimes I even have to say it more than just once. I find that having trust in the universe (or God) relieves me of anxiety and stress. What can strengthen your trust in the universe is to think of all the times in the past that things just fell into place. It is good to write them down in your journal, so that you can read them when in doubt, and they reinforce your belief that everything will turn out right.
Why not start the list right now? There’s no time like the present!